Timothy Rice

How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids

It’s not children who extinguish the flame of desire—it’s the adults who fail to keep the spark alive.

Rating: 2/5 – This was not for me.

I would have titled this book How to Strongarm Your Worthless Parasite Husband Into Contributing the Bare Minimum Towards Household Upkeep and Cope With His Inevitably Underwhelming Performance.

Much (most?) of my disappointment in this book comes from being upset that the useless husbands displayed by the author are, almost certainly, honest portrayals. I’m disgusted and appalled at the determination of these men to contribute close to nothing towards a functioning household. It’s not hard to change diapers, do laundry, or cook dinner! Those are easy things! You can change the oil on your car, you can certainly wipe a butt!

Others things I didn’t like: the author’s presumption that after spending and hour with some guru she’s qualified to write about their subject of expertise. Or her attempts to legitimize all of her assertions by cherry-picking research findings that support her conclusions. I’m going to start immediately dropping books that commit either of these sins.

I was especially galled by the stories of wives who refuse to offer their husbands praise for little efforts around the house, while simultaneously complaining about how DREADFUL it is to live an entirely unappreciated life. And this is after they discover how much more helpful their husbands are when given praise! That this appalling hypocrisy apparently completely flew over the head of the author is flabbergasting.

There was some useful passages about forging a stronger bond with your spouse, and I enjoyed the short section on how and why to give your kids a no-strings-attached allowance. But outside of that, I didn’t get much out of this one. I’m sure there are people out there who need and benefit from this book, but I’m not one of them.

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